Protecting Your Inner Peace and Energy

Now that 2020 has ended, I know... a cap on a horrible year, I'd like to discuss this little self care tip that can help alleviate or eliminate stress in your life called "protecting your peace". Protecting your peace simply means not allowing outside influences, circumstances, people, occurrences and situations that don't pertain to you to have a huge or detrimental effect on you. Protecting your peace and your energy is important because we find ourselves giving so much of our time, care, attention, and focus to others that we neglect ourselves and don't do or live by what makes us feel good.

Often times, we don't check in with ourselves, focus on our mental well-being, don't get enough sleep, don't cry or talk our feelings out. We don't feel heard or seen, aren't 100% brutally honest with the people we hold close, and we get taken advantage of because people take kindness for weakness. We don't listen to that inner voice, we don't assess the energies of the people around us, nor do we cut ties with certain people (for the sake of the relationship). We tend to let things go on longer than they should, we don't drink enough water or eat healthier. We don't exercise more, we don't meditate, and we don't de-clutter our lives...

We spend a lot of time breaking ourselves down and putting ourselves through mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual exhaustion. We tend to decide to deal with things how they are or we decide to keep putting ourselves through the same motions and not choosing better. I feel as though we get so swept up into life, love, relationships, friendships, and being there for everyone else that we fail to be there for ourselves which isn't okay. I'm guilty of it too, but slowly and surely I've been practicing a few tips to help me protect my peace and energy.

1. Learn to say 'NO'

Saying no to going out, talking to/seeing someone is okay, not answering/replying to someone's phone call, message or comment is okay. If you don't have the energy to handle something or someone, if something or someone makes you uncomfortable or unhappy choose 'no'. You aren't obligated to say yes to everything and everyone.

2. Learn to listen to your inner voice

You know exactly what you need or what you're missing, listen to your mind, body, heart, and soul. Nourish you. The same effort and energy you put into others, put that into yourself. Make the correct decisions for yourself, do what feels right to you and for you because you have to follow your 'gut'.

3. Cut Ties With Certain People

If you feel people, family, friends, co-workers, etc take up too much of your time, drains you of your spirit, energy, happiness, and joy you have to limit your interactions, responses and relationships with them. Cutting ties with people is okay, getting away from or removing toxic people out of your life is okay. It's okay to outgrow people and to not waste time dealing with people who are draining.

4. Focus On Your Well-Being

Listening to your inner voice is important, but you have to listen to your body and nourish it. If you aim to eat better, do it. If you aim to stay hydrated, drink more water. If you aim to give you body the rest it deserves, get more sleep. Set personal well-being goals for yourself, you have to look after yourself, your peace and energy will thank you for it.

5. Let Go of the Negativity, Pessimism is Cancelled

All the worrying, stressing, letting bad things or negative people get to you will tarnish your peace and deplete your energy. Being a 'Negative Nancy' to yourself is detrimental to your growth and capabilities. Stop sweating the things you can't control and focus on the things you can. When negativity creeps in or you're surrounded by negative vibes, you better move around and say 'No, not today, I'm not letting this effect me, I am better than this'.

6. De-Clutter Your Life

Get organized, clean up your room/space, throw out the garbage, get rid of the BS. Part ways with whatever or whoever you don't need or want to have in your life. Get out of that bad environment. Unplug from social media, unsubscribe from those accounts or memberships, delete those apps, assess the relationships you have with other people and if it doesn't benefit both people, remove them. You don't need the extra-ness.

Protect your energy and peace without feeling guilty, bad, or having excuses. Don't allow people or things to steal your joy, happiness, peace, energy, light or freedom. Don't be afraid to take a break from people or things that drain you or make you feel uncomfortable. If you don't like something, speak up about it and change it. These are some tips that have helped me throughout 2020, so I hope they can help you too!

Good Vibes Only Over Here all 2021 and so forth!