Life Lesson: Doing What's Best For You.

Have you ever gotten to a point in life where you feel stuck or or like you've been holding yourself back? Have you ever not done what's best for you because you didn't want to disappoint someone else or leave others hanging? There will come a time in life where you have to realize who you are, where you are in life, and how you can get to where you want to be, even if that means hurting, disappointing, or angering someone.

Doing what's best for you is as simple as that, doing what is best for you, not anyone else. You are not in the business of people pleasing, not waiting around for someone to catch up, or not feeling guilty about doing what makes you happy. At this stage in life, I am soaking in the good, learning the lessons I need to learn, connecting certain dots, shedding some old habits/ways and making the small changes I need to make for me regardless of how anyone else feels or what anyone else wants for me.

I am listening to myself more, speaking my mind more, and no longer allowing anyone to guilt-trip, gaslight, or attempt to make me feel less than because of their own fears, doubts, traumas or lack of. If I have a desire to do something, to go somewhere, to pay for something, to have something I do it. I've always been a go-getter, a person that gets up and do what needs to be done to achieve what I want.

Yes, I've had several moments of procrastination, self-doubt, lack of confidence and fears when it comes to making big and small decisions. I've worried about things that hadn't happened yet and sometimes let other close family and friends influence my decision making. One thing I've noticed repeatedly is when you start setting boundaries, speaking up for yourself, standing firm in your energy and decision making, it makes other people mad or realize their lack of.

You are making the right choices you believe and feel are the best for you and someone else is upset or uncomfortable?! That manipulation tactic, has nothing to do with you and don't feel like you have to stay complacent to make someone else happy or comfortable, because someone else isn't open to change. I completely understand that being open to change is scary, but if that change is for the betterment of you, you cannot let anyone or anything get in the way of that growth moment.

If someone is holding you back, weighing you down, wanting you to be stuck in their misery with them, you have to hold yourself accountable if you sat in that and hold the people accountable who are looking at your life with envy or jealousy. You have to tell them they can have the success and the growth as well, but they have to do the work themselves, that part isn't your responsibility. You cannot feel bad for making the decisions you need or have to make for yourself.

Yes, it will hurt others for you to choose to be happy, protect your energy, and to grow beyond them. However, doing what's best for you will also make others reflect in the mirror about their own lives, but that's them and you're you.

The lesson here is: DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY, DO IT FOR YOU.